Marriage Prep #3

They say that time is the most valuable commodity we possess. The same is true in marriage. Couples will find that they will argue about time (or some nuance of it) quite often. How you spend a weekend, an evening, or deciding who's going to pick up the groceries . . . all of these have implications in time.

I have always encouraged couples to do an inventory of their expectations before getting married. This inventory should include expectations about housework (who's sweeping, who's doing dishes, who's taking out the trash, etc.), as well as being able to save time for individual pursuits. It's important to support each other in the pursuits, but also stay out of the way and allow time for individual space and hobbies.

Couples will find that, if they talk about their time before they get married, they'll have a much deeper appreciation for the time they spend together AND the time they are apart.